Thích Nhất Hạnh is a Vietnamese Zen Buddhist
monk, teacher, author, poet and peace activist. He
lives in the Plum Village Monastery in the Dordogne
region in the South of France, travelling
internationally to give retreats and talks.
In the interview by Oprah Winfrey, Thích Nhất Hạnh gave 4 mantra that we can use
in our relationships

"Darling, I am here for you."
(The best you can offer your loved one is your *present*!!!)

"Darling, I know you are there, and it makes me happy"
(You recognize the existence of your loved one)

"Darling, I know you suffer, that is why I am here for you"
(When your loved one suffer)

When you suffer (and believed it is caused by your loved one
"Darling, I suffer, please help me"
(When you suffer, and believed it is caused by your loved one)